June 9, 2009.
So a very wise reader of mine left a very wise comment on my last post about telling Todd sooner than later how I feel to avoid further pain for either one of us. Very wise. Also, advising me to stick to my plan of abstinence since that's what I set out to do this year. Also very wise...
Now, I've been thinking about his wise words all day and agreeing in my head and trying to come up with a good way to approach this subject with Todd, when I went to check my email and found this:
"After Sunday I was lying in bed rethinking my comment about 'buying' a loto ticket to get you in a movie, and that's BS, your fate will not be decided by that. I know you r good, you know you r good. Goods things will come;)
I hope your interview went well.
This sat, my friends hawaiian themed bday party is in encino, going all night. Should be a lot of fun and if you can make it, you'll meet a lot of my friends you haven't seen.
Also, I wanted to throw this out there now, in July, weekend of 9th-12, would you be up for a mini weekend vacation in.........COSTA RICA!!!!??!?!
I met this amazing couple in South America. The best couple and parents I've ever met. He was an actor on the HBO series 'OZ' and she is a cake baker, both lived in NY for years, so many 'I' similiarities;)
Anyhoot, they have a place down there and are begging me visit and I'm leaning towards yes and obviously want you there!
Let's chat about it the next time I see you.
Have a great day, miss ya, see you soon;)"
~Todd
Fuck.
What's a girl to do? Part of me wants to be extremely selfish and play along until I get a free trip to Costa Rica and some possible career connections. The other part knows this is terrible and knows I should do something about this now rather than later. But, not gonna lie...I'm a bit torn right now. Just out of curiosity...what would you do? And don't think about morals too much, what would you really want to do?? Be honest!
you better go to costa rica
ReplyDeleteOoooh... toughy. My ex waited until after our weekend trip to Mammoth (all staying for free at my friend's sweet condo steps from the mountain, and he brought his freakin friend with him) to break up with me. That sucked. While that probably will be a fab career move, Todd probably won't want to talk to you anymore.
ReplyDeleteAnd it sounds like you've already made up your mind about him, so maybe not talking to him won't be so bad. :-) Good luck!
So...off the top of my head?
ReplyDeleteI'd go.
Done and done.
I think you should go!!!
ReplyDeleteif the jury is still out on him you should see this as an opportunity knocking and open the door to it. However, if you know in your heart that you don't want to be with Todd I believe you should tell him BEFORE the trip.
ReplyDeleteMorality is more than abstinence and abstinence is not necessary to have morals. Honesty on the other hand IS necessary. Being a good person and respecting yourself and your decisions at the end of the day is the most important thing. Be cautious when making decisions that aren't honest.
Daisy hit it right on the money.
ReplyDeleteAll I have to say about Todd's email is that he totally misused the question mark/exclamation point combo. The proper way is COSTA RICA????!!!!! (not COSTA RICA!!!!????...) etc.
The question mark has to come before the exclamation point!! Todd's rating just fell to 19%. FAIL!! haha just kidding.
Don't be too nice about it....you gotta tell him clear up front that you're willing to go and have a good time but that the last thing you need in your heart is to feel obligated by his gifts.
I believe that nothing is set in stone and just because you feel a certain way now doesn't mean you should deny yourself a potentially very beneficial experience. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense, but I would go bottom line :)
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