Thursday, May 21, 2009

Does Everyone Deserve a 2nd (or third or fourth) Chance?

May 21, 2009.

Wow. May is nearing an end. Where does the time go? Went out with the girls after work last night. We're trying to make a weekly venture to a new restaurant/bar/place that we've never been before so we can discover new things and potentially new people. It's fun.

Last night we chose a place in Toluca Lake called 'Timmy Nolans'. It was a pretty cute irish pub. Kind of dead though and lacking excitement, but we still managed to have fun.

Todd told me he was going to meet me out there for a beer before heading home to pack for his trip. Ok. So about an hour later I text to see if he was actually coming and he said, “Scared to drink and drive, when are you coming back to the oaks?”

I told him I'd probably be out until close, half assuming that would deter a hang out because his flight was at 8am this morning and I figured 2am would be too late for him to hang. But he said that was fine and I should text him when I'm headed back so he can meet up with me.

On the way back, I was two beers in and extremely exhausted, but I text him. No response. Lacey dropped me off home, I got ready for bed and climbed under the covers. 30 min later I get a text from him, “I love McCabes!!” That's his favorite bar in Santa Monica. Um...ok random text. Not sure what to do with that one. So I went with, “Have a good trip.”

Then he replied claiming he hadn't seen my text and asking if I was up for a movie and late night chat?

No. I absolutely am not. I told him I couldn't drive. He said, “I'll come to you.” Really? Will you really?

At this point I was so over trying to hang out with him, so tired and my room looked like a tornado had hit fifteen years ago and dust and dirt has been compiling on top of the rubble since. I was in no mood to quickly clean my room for a guy. So I said, “Don't you have to pack?”

He said, “Pack smack, I'm a guy, I'll just throw clothes into my bag.” one more try at deterring him, “And you're ok to drive?”

“Yes, I am. I don't want to impose though...well, I do.” I guess he genuinely wants to hang out. I can't figure out why.

So, that's when I fell asleep. I didn't respond to that one...not sure if I even heard my phone beep when I received it. I was so tired.

This morning I woke up and saw that I had one more text from him, “I just finished getting gas, maybe it's not the best idea. When I get back, dinner date, out in Santa Monica or the oaks?”

Oops...he probably thinks I was ignoring him, but really I was just already deep asleep dreaming about my jealousy and insecurity issues.

I don't know, maybe I need to give Todd another chance. I just can't get a stable read on him. Should I do dinner when he comes back? Opinions??


  1. I'm new to your blog and therefore am not super familiar with the circumstances but this is a tough one!! If you have a pattern of giving too many chances maybe you shouldn't give him another. (that's how I am.) But if he is prompt on setting up the date when he gets back, you still get excited to see texts or calls from him and you don't have a history of too many chances I say "go for it!" :)

  2. Do dinner. What have you got to lose, right?

  3. I would do dinner when he gets back, won't hurt anything - but would def avoid any late night drunken hang outs!